Yesterday I wrote an instagram post about my struggle parenting twins. It has been a hard trial for me. I know others have no issues with it and love it, but it throws me for a loop all the time.
My of the trials comes in trying to make life fair for the two of them. They have completely opposite personalities and so I interact and parent them completely different. It's not a big deal with my other children, but as twins they seem to know what the other is feeling and therefore feel the difference in parenting.
One of the twins constantly feels that I do not love her as much because I parent her different then her twin sister. Then the other twin feels that she's constantly having to carry the burden of her sister and so forth. Do you see my struggle?!
But even through the trial, they have taught me beautiful life lessons. One of which came as I was writing my instagram post the other night. Here is what I said:
God Knows!
Twins!
Ahhh it has been a hard trial. Harder then I ever could have imagined.
But yet, sweeter then I ever imagined too!
They are complete opposites!
One loves people and attention, the other hides in a corner and doesn’t want to get to know anyone.
One looks like Zac and the other looks like me.
But God knew these two needed each other.
And so he sent them together.
God knew they needed different personalities so they could help the other one in their weakness.
What a blessing! What a miracle!!
To know that you have each other’s backs.
To know there is a bond greater then just sisterhood and friendship.
They share one another’s burdens.
They have a love for each other beyond anything I have seen before.
I know they will be okay in life because they have each other.
As I think of their relationship, it shows me the relationship I can have with Christ!
It’s what he offers me!
A love beyond anything else I could know.
Someone to carry my burdens.
Someone to walk with me and make up my weaknesses.
That is who Christ is!
And if the only reason I was sent twins was to see what Christ can do for me, I will take it!
I’m grateful God knows and has a purpose in all things!
And I’m most grateful God gave me these 2 beautiful girls to teach me how life should be!
As I've thought on this post for the last 24 hours, I've thought of Christ's succor for me. Twins naturally succor each other. It's their nature and part of who they are.
How do I understand and trust His succor for me?
Succor means to go to the aid of; Relieve
President Erying explained Christ's succor in his talk "Tested, Proved, and Polished" in October 2020. He says,
"The Father's plan of happiness has at its center our becoming ever more like His Beloved Son, Jesus Christ. In all things, the Savior's example is our best guide. He was not exempt [bolded and italicized to emphasize] from the need to prove Himself. He endured for all of Heavenly Father's children, paying the price for all our sins. He felt the suffering of all who have and will come into mortality.
"When you wonder how much pain you can endure well, remember Him. He suffered what you suffer so that He would know how to lift you up. He may not be able to remove the burden, but He will give you strength, comfort, and hope. He knows the way. He drank the bitter cup. He endured the suffering of all.
"You are being nourished and comforted by a loving Savior, who knows how to succor you in whatever tests you face. Alma taught: ......'and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.'"
My twin girls each other because they understand and trust that the other one feels and understands what they are going through.
When I focus on Christ's mission here on earth I can better learn to trust that He is the only one who knows what I am going through. He is the only one who has felt all the emotions that I am feeling. He is the only one who is crying tears of heartache and joy with me.
From what I hear and see, the relationship of twins is amazing. But from what I am learning, Christ offers even more amazing!
This is my prayer for the week - that I may learn to allow Christ to succor me!
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